Every once in a while, I want to throw in some commentary for my wonderful readers. I want you to know that I understand that foreclosure is more than just facts, figues, and a long to-do list. There is a lot of emotion that goes into this process – because no matter what the news says, no matter what Wall Street says, no matter what Congress says… this is your HOME we are talking about. Now, you will often hear me say that you need to step back from the emotions and look at your house as a property so you can make a rational, logical decision about what to do if you are facing foreclosure, but I DO understand the emotion that is automatically attached to this place where you raised your kids, started your business, began your marriage, played with your pets, had birthdays and anniversaries and tragedies… I understand that.
So, my commentary today is in respect for that emotion, and I would strongly suggest to you that you get the support you need during this turbulent time. Foreclosure is a VERY stressful process – not only mentally and emotionally, but physically as well, as our bodies take on the stress of our minds.
This morning, I was meditating… yes, I meditate! I mean, come on now… I deal with this all day every day – you gotta have SOME practice that keeps your mind free, and meditation is mine! So, I was meditating this morning and was reminded about receiving. I give a lot… my mentor says that at times, I over-give, actually. And this morning, my gift was a reminder to receive the love of those around me. As I was reminded of all the love of those who DO love me and show me that every day, I thought about you, an how good you would feel if you were reminded about the love and support that is available for you.
Every day, I talk to someone who says that my information is needed by someone they know. Think about it – right now, someone you know who knows that you are going through a hard financial time is thinking of you and thinking that you deserve a solution and some support. That is such am awesome gift – someone is thinking of your best interest. Someone wants to see you happy. Someone you know wants you to make it through this hardship and not only survive on the other side, but really thrive in your life. That is AMAZING, and I want you to take advantage of that.
Reach out to your friends, family, community, co-workers, and support system. Move through your pride and embarrassment and tell them what you need – if it’s a daily phone call to see that you’re okay, if it’s a reference to a good realtor or attorney or financial planner, if it’s a few dollars to get you through, if it’s a “distraction day” where you go and laugh at a silly movie for 2 hours to lift your spirits. Whatever you need, I want you to reach out to your group and ask for it. And then, sit back and receive. Give people the opportunity to help you. It will be such a joy to them to assist you, just because they love you. And that can be a hard lesson to learn for us “can-do, capable” folks… I am one of those, and this is something that I have to remind myself of every day. But it is especially important when you are going through the hard times…. reach out to those who WANT to help you, and receive their love.
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I recently completed a workout on our home, succesfully avoiding foreclosure. It took 8 months, many, many hours of phone calls and several letters - one very effective one to my state senator - to make it happen. I am a business owner, wife and mother and I can tell you that I have never been through such emotional distress (which fueled my fire breathing determination). Your words of advice are priceless. As a "doer" and a "giver" myself, I completed this phase of life feeling extremely depleated and a little shell-shocked. I applaud you for reminding your readers to re-fuel with love and support of those around them. Accepting these things is the hardest part, especially when you are in a fight & survival mode. But by allowing it in - you will expel it out and it will carry you through! Thank you for the reminder!
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